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No Argument Please….

Dr Hara Prasanna Das

Love and Peace is the goal of life for all. Each one of us wish to lead a peaceful and joyful life. But most of the times our thought and action do not match in creating a climate of understanding and trust. Hence the argument starts which never leads to peace. We all know it well still we like to argue than to discuss on any issue. The reason being very simple. We want to prove our worth by dominating on others through words. Loud voice, hard words with a mix of negative thoughts add fuel to arguments. That spoils the peace of mind as well as our interpersonal relations.

Patience to Listen

It is a fact that most of us do not have the patience to listen actively to the expression of others. Instead, we get excited to express our thought and feeling to others. When we do not have the interest to listen to others, then why others will listen to us. If we listen actively, what others are speaking to, then we will be able to understand the meaning behind their words. Our focus should be on the message, but not on the person or his attitude. Once we understand clearly the message and the purpose behind, then we can visualize the nature of our next action. We will be able to reply in a very positive way as per the need of the situation. Effort to understand each other depends on our patience to listen for understanding. Hence we must learn the art of listening. That will keep the argument away from our conversation.

Admitting Own Mistakes

No one is perfect in this world. We all have both positive and negative qualities. We are expected to commit mistakes in our work irrespective of power, position, education, richness or age groups. Even if we take all precautions in any work, we are liable to commit mistake. But many people do not admit their mistake. Rather they start justifying their mistakes and make all efforts to prove them right. There starts the argument which makes the situation more complicated than to solve the issue. As observed, wise persons in true sense, admit their mistakes and learn from that. This creates a climate of understanding and mutual respect. There is no scope of argument in such cases where one admits his mistake and shows the attitude of learning. Mistakes are the source of learning in our life. lets realise this act accordingly.

Love for Peace

We all need peace in life. But peace is not a commodity to be purchased in market. Peaceful mind brings all success in life. That is the foundation for achievements in every aspects of our life. We love peace, but most of the time our action breaks all peace. We create the climate for argument and fight which ends in the break up of our relation. Peace never happens where argument prevails. If we have the goal to gain peace then we will never prefer to argue. Rather we will make all efforts to avoid argument and go for discussion, negotiation to solve the crisis. It depends on our attitude, either to search for peace or insist on argument to exhibit our strength. This is the ego factor which kills our mental peace. The so-called educated people know this well, but never realise the truth of life. Love for peace is to be proved in our action. Argument will never ensure the peace in life at any cost. Now the choice is ours. If we need a peaceful and joyful life, we must avoid argument on any issue. Rather we must love to have discussion with the attitude of share and care. Mutual trust and understanding will pave way for a peaceful and effective life. hence no argument please.