Talk:Autistic Survival Guide/Social Interaction Guidelines

welcome to add comments
Anyone is welcome to add comments or their views on this discussion page Logictheo 23:35, 4 May 2007 (UTC)

Questions and Conversation factoids
I hope the changes I've made are liked. I thought that the Questions and Conversations pages would make better sense as one chapter, since asking questions are part of having a conversation. I've copied the contents of the Questions into this one and redirected that page to this one, so people can still find it. There is a page named "Visualising social interaction", so I renamed this page as "Understanding social interaction", to be a second part to that chapter. This is much in the same way as "Ways to maintain self esteem" is a second part of "Ways to build self esteem". I've also updated the page where this is included from, to reflect these changes. --dark lama  14:10, 24 May 2007 (UTC)


 * Please don't change the layout of the book. The questions section is easily one of the most important parts of the book and should go up front because it doesn't discuss conversation at all. CrazyEddy 15:13, 24 May 2007 (UTC)


 * How are (asking) questions, and knowing how to do so effectively to get the answers you want, not part of a conversation? I would agree that questions are one of the most important parts of some conversations. Even my question is proof that questions are part of a conversation. Saying "its not discussing conversation at all", makes no sense to me. --dark lama  17:43, 24 May 2007 (UTC)


 * The conversation section applies to non-autistic social conversation, whereas the questions section deals with actually retrieving needed factual information that can't be found anywhere else and that non-autistic people learn instinctively. The kind of information contained in this book but which isn't in there. CrazyEddy 03:06, 25 May 2007 (UTC)


 * Surely the conversation section is (or should be) about social conversations between autistics and non-autistics, in order to help autistics deal with conversing with non-autistics? Rather then just how non-autistics converse. --dark lama  01:13, 27 May 2007 (UTC)


 * It's a minor distinction really, but one well made. The book isn't really about how to do anything.  The opening half of the book just talks about how the non-autistic world works, so theoretically it can be used for both things.  In reality, you have to actually get onto the "non-autistic wavelength" to be able to connect with any non-autistic person.  Once that's achieved, it may be possible to negotiate other communication styles, but in general, they use the same communication style for everybody.  CrazyEddy 11:56, 31 May 2007 (UTC)

Reciprocal disclosure
"There are very good reasons for everyone to be careful about how deep they go into any given relationship. The deeper they go, the more compatible they need to be for the relationship to remain positive, and the harder it can be emotionally to remain in, or end, a negative relationship; therefore the more they need to be sure of being compatible."

This is my understanding, anyway; but since I'm on the spectrum myself, it needs verification. Seahen 00:11, 27 May 2007 (UTC)